How Did I Get Here?

16 Sep

Here on the blog…or here in my career? Well, both, I guess.

This is a question I think many writers hear. Some variation on the questions “How did you get here?” or “How did you start out?” or “What’s your story?”

Well, I figure since this is my first blog on Passionate Reads, why not start at the beginning?

I’ve been a voracious reader since I can remember. When I was pregnant with our daughter, my husband was deployed and I couldn’t work. Ergo: Lots of free time. I read. I read everything. I read so much that the library staff knew me by name. They knew I was there when they saw my car pull up. I flew home for a week visit at one point, and when I stopped back by after I got home, the worker told me “I thought you’d gone into preterm labor! We were so worried!” Note: I was gone a week.

Skip ahead. Daughter is now four months old. And I’ve wiped the library clean out of romance novels. Literally. I had them check with me. I am rereading a few favorites, but overall I’m bored. So I just sat down one day with my iPod while she was taking a nap, put on some soothing music, and fell into some alternate space. I wasn’t asleep, I wasn’t dreaming. But I was living through characters that met during some event where the song that I was listening to at that moment was playing. I decided “you know what? I’m out of reading material, why not give the other end of the stick a try?

And here I am.

Okay, okay, not quite. I had a lot (oh, a lot) to learn. My first attempt at a novel ended up being a category length novel aimed at Harlequin. And its title might as well have been Clichés Ahoy! It was awful. But I think we all kind of have to cut our teeth on something, so I’m glad I got that out of my system. I had joined a writing group by then, was learning a lot through example and unofficial mentorship, I saw my mistakes and worked hard.

Then for Nano 2009, I had a plot bunny push his rude little way into my mind. I had plans on a full length contemporary romance, and this erotic romance (which I did NOT write) said “Write me, or else.” It hijacked my brain, literally. So I wrote it. And wasn’t sure what to do with it. So I wrote something else for awhile. Because, I didn’t do erotic romance. It was just an exercise to shut up the bunny. Then on the encouragement of friends and fellow Ellora’s Cave authors, I subbed to EC. Even though (say it with me now) I didn’t write erotic romance.

Bull.Crap.

I got “the email” and, whadyaknow… I write erotic romance. :) I think I simply didn’t trust myself in the genre, didn’t see my own writing as hot enough, sexy enough. I let doubts tell me what I didn’t write instead of doing my best to push past the fears and accept that hey…I’m a writer. An erotic romance writer. That’s right, my stuff is sexy.

And so now here I am. Awaiting the first release with Ellora’s Cave. On the anniversary of when I wrote it. One year later. Pretty amusing. And that’s how I got from A to B.

Or A to E…llora’s Cave. (Lame, right?)

Want more? I blog often on my own website, so head on over and check it out!

KJ

10 Responses to “How Did I Get Here?”

  1. naramalone September 16, 2010 at 12:30 pm #

    Great post, KJ. I love reading how authors get there start. Do you always use music to inspire you when you’re writing? I love reading about how other authors create too. :)

  2. ChrisQ September 16, 2010 at 2:03 pm #

    Wow, great story KJ. I love hearing how writers took that first step.

  3. Keri Ford September 16, 2010 at 2:05 pm #

    Hey, KJ. Love hearing how different people started writing and that’s too funny about the library.

  4. Voirey Linger September 16, 2010 at 2:19 pm #

    Pet the bunny… Love the bunny…

  5. Grace Bradley September 16, 2010 at 3:07 pm #

    I’m certainly glad you decided (or embraced the fact may be a better way to say it) that you are an erotic romance author. I’m happy I get to help usher your stories out into the world :)

  6. Marguerite Labbe September 16, 2010 at 3:14 pm #

    The bunnies usually win. Thanks for telling your story. :-D

  7. Crystal Kauffman September 16, 2010 at 10:00 pm #

    Oooohhh, the doubts. If only there were a maverick bunny to machine gun them down. Glad you got past them and are here with us!

  8. Lauren Fraser September 17, 2010 at 1:41 am #

    Enjoyed your blog. I’m looking forward to reading your first book.

  9. Kaily Hart September 17, 2010 at 3:07 am #

    KJ, that’s a great story. It’s fascinating to hear about how such diverse people can end up in essentially the same place. I can’t wait to read your first book!

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  1. Over at Passionate Reads today - September 16, 2010

    [...] I’m over at Passionate Reads today. I’m blogging about how I got to where I am right now. Given I’m only twenty-six and I don’t even have one book for sale yet, it’s not the longest of roadtrips. But I am always curious how people got “started” as it were. So if you would like to head over to Passionate Reads, a group blog where other Ellora’s Cave authors and I like to chat, then that would be splendid! Come on over and comment. Make me smile. [...]

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